A week ago I had a weird dream. I told myself I’ll give myself a week to decipher the “hidden message” on it. I don’t deem that dream an awful one, although it involves death, because I felt like the dream wants to state something significant to me. This dream I am talking about involves my Dad, an ex-lover, the father of my kid and my son. The “death” connects everyone— there’s only ONE death that happened. My dad died first then the ex-lover came in the picture then the dad of my kid died then it went back to my Dad’s death at the end. My son (Thank God!) didn’t die but he had a big part in that dream, he was with me trying to save “someone” from dying.
That day I was able to tag each as:
My dad – A very important person in my life.
An ex-lover- someone who’s unimportant; don’t want to be remembered at all.
The father of my kid- someone important; someone connected to me; someone I try to forget.
My son- the most important person of all.
In that dream, in my endeavor to save my dad from death, I got burned. I didn’t die but it left a permanent scar; a very ugly scar.
Two days after that, I had a weird dream again. In my dream I got pregnant and I don’t know who the father is. I told my friends about but they shoo away.
Thanks to dreamhawk.com they have the best interpretation of dreams. I was able to decode the message.
· DEATH: Death is an everyday part of life. So dreams often use it to illustrate leaving something behind, such as childhood or a relationship. Also parts of one’s feelings sometimes die. Our love for someone might die for instance, and so our dream illustrates this with a death, perhaps of that person. Some teenagers dream of their parents dying as they start to become independent. This is a form of killing of dependent feelings about their parents as a means of growth. This happens in some relationships too, where we want to break with the person.
What is dead may also depict what is past. It therefore carries traditional experience and wisdom. But in our dream life, death usually holds in it the promise of change or regeneration-rebirth is some way.
- There are things that I am trying to forget, a feeling that I want to die and a feeling that already died.
- It’s already 6 months of being independent from my dad and 2 ½ years of independence from men.
· FATHER Either represents the feelings you have about your father, or the characteristics in your nature that have arisen from this relationship; or can represent an authority figure. Can also stand for a teacher, or person by whom you are much influenced. Or else your own positive, protective qualities. How you relate to the 'doer' in you; physical strength and protectiveness; the will to be.
- My dad represents those things or person I consider very important in my life. This probably includes the people or things that I am taking for granted.
- This dream also wants to put in the picture my personal relationship with God. My dad represents God simply because I look to God as my Father… and I am taking them both for granted. I ran away from them.
· Ex-lover/boyfriend: You have certainly carried feeling with you from the relationship, and your dreams about your ex will try to work out some way of feeling at ease within yourself about the break. This is especially so if difficult or painful emotions were involved. Unless these emotions are freed from your past, they are not available for the present.
- The “unimportant” ex-lover represents my past. Maybe it’s time to let go of ugly memories and start from who I am today so I can see myself differently.
- For me it was funny to see that ex in my dream but probably that dream wants to tell me that my past is not important anymore… that I have to move on, see the present and learn to love myself.
· SON Feelings or worries concerning a son. Growing part of self. Hopes or worries about the future. Your extroverted self; desires connected with self expression; parental responsibility.
Mothers dream: Your ambitions; potential; hopes. It can also represent your marriage. The child is the fruit of the relationship, so can represent the state of the relationship.
- There are issues that I have to give my attention to. I have to leave past hurts, grudges and bad memories behind. I have to focus on my son.
- When you’re a mother, you can’t help but to be paranoid at times. I am a very paranoid mom and I have a lot of fears about my son. Maybe I have to stop dwelling on negative feelings and instead believe that everything will be alright as long as I have Jesus in my life.
- When you’re a mother, you can’t help but to be paranoid at times. I am a very paranoid mom and I have a lot of fears about my son. Maybe I have to stop dwelling on negative feelings and instead believe that everything will be alright as long as I have Jesus in my life.
· FIRE More than anything else fire represents the process of life. Just as with all living things, fire needs to be fed to remain alive. So a fire burning low could show your life process at low ebb.
Fire can also can depict your burning love, fiery passion, emotional fever, pain or purification. Fire is a tremendous energy that we learn to use even when quite young. So it can refer to how you use powerful emotional energies that can support or destroy. Fire can show an emergency, or a sudden and difficult change.
Like energy in general, fire can warm, produce power, purify, bring about chemical change; or it can consume, destroy, injure, run amuck. It is therefore often used as a symbol for your relationship with your own powerful energies - sex, anger, ambition, fear.
Also fire can stand for suffering of a mental or even physical nature. Or it can depict the destruction some of your feelings, passions or anger can do.
Standing in, or being in flames, can therefore suggest either purification, the burning out of old attitudes or experiences, or deep personal suffering.
- SEX: This probably involves my longing to have someone ; a partner.
- ANGER: My hot tempered state that I should change; destructive.
- AMBITION: My future plans that I am working out right now.
- FEAR: My never ending fears.
- BEING IN FLAMES: My mission; to be an inspiration; to be a better person; to glorify God.
- THE PERMANENT “UGLY” SCAR: Jesus Christ.
- I tried to run away from Him a lot of times already and I always fail to do so. I thought the fire’s already gone as well. The burning desire to be with Him is not present anymore. However, THE WORK IS STILL ON PROGRESS. He is still working on me, trying to change me. I guess He’ll never stop looking after me. I sometimes see the Christian Life “negatively” but no matter what happens I know He will never leave me. If you will have a permanent ugly scar because you tried to save someone’s life, would you be ashamed or proud of that? Probably, that’s how I should see life.
· PREGNANT/PREGNANCY This can point to the development of a new approach to life, a new project you are creating, a new outlet of expression, or new faculty.
If you are not pregnant it is usually about a new area of your potential or personality developing; a deepening relationship with your potential is producing a new area of experience, a new talent or facet of your personality. It is still unborn - i.e. not yet expressed outwardly - but it is developing. It can also show in the drama of the dream, how you are bringing to birth a new scheme or creative idea is 'hatching'.
In a woman's dream: May refer to desire for a child; fear of being pregnant - i.e. in a relationship but not wanting to be pregnant. For a woman being pregnant may depict what is resulting from a relationship with a man she has become deeply involved with.
- A new life or something new, I guess. I have new bunch of friends and a new career in a new environment. I am enjoying it. I guess being independent from Julie is never that bad at all. With her out of the picture, I can clearly SEE myself as I AM not trying to be anyone else. I am trying to live my life on my own. I am trying to work things out no matter how hard it is. Maybe too much dependency doesn’t do me good at all.
